Once again here we are wondering how did we ever get ourselves into this mess?What were the moments that allowed someone so wrong to enter our most highest office of the land?
What can we do to alter the current situation and how can we move forward from this state of chaos?
What I enjoyed was the mere look into a person who has been termed to be suffering from many different issues one of which is a personality trait disorder.
I cannot diagnose from afar based on the Goldwater Rule but I can tell you that my knowledge of malignant narcissism spans over 13 yrs having married one and subsequently discarded and devalued by one.
The similarities in general layman terms is striking and this book addresses not just opinion but fact in a manner that is easy to read and understand.
Why is that critical?
Many aren't aware of the importance of what's in plain view and are in denial even when striking evidence is presented and on full display.
Let's take a closer look:
In my local area of Luzerne County Pa we helped put DT on the map -NO not that map of sharpies- the one that helped get him elected.
Now don't ask why but it has to do with the almighty ego, the alpha males, the lack of employment, the low salaried wages, and so much more. That gun ho- take no prisoners-full steam ahead mannerism that is despicable to the average intellectual citizen.
This is my issue as we've had a growing number in Northeastern PA exit out in search of greener pastures and higher salaried positions with room for advancements and nicely wrapped benefit packages
Those left behind are not what DT would term 'the best and the brightest' so it's no small wonder why the pull for the mob mentality works here.
People are generally tired, they want change, they need change, the middle class is all but null and void and our democracy has now tanked.
Folks, there's an old saying if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...
Or perhaps if you lie down with a dog you will get fleas.
As a navy veteran's daughter, as the daughter of a politician, and a wife of a politician with over 20 yrs of serving in governmental offices including OBP in DC - I can tell you that there's a certain 'thick skin' one must possess for such work but also some degree of narcissism.
Sure, we all want to be powerful and while certain aspects of that fight to get to the top is warranted the latter is on point and always in the spotlight here.
You see it's that need for that constant attention, adulation, praise that we see in every photo op, every tweet, every interaction daily.
I can't call this person by his title but I will simply refer to it as DT for my purposes here.
This person ruled with an iron fist and that appealed to many for many reasons.
However, what they refuse to acknowledge is the Jekyll and Hyde persona. The lack of attention to detail. The inability to make educated choices with a staff worthy of recognition.
In fact it's that high turnover which puts our nation in jeopardy.
It's that off the cuff reaction, those temper tantrums, the knee jerk responses to that grandiose ego that makes everyone fearful.
Look, you might sit and think, "But look at what he's doing for us." Really? I ask much like Janet Jackson asked, "What has he done for me lately?"
This is the point we must ask ourselves * Are we willing to turn a blind eye to his actions, his alleged wrongdoings that are criminal, and to his complete disregard for our Constitution?
If you don't care than why did you vote him in?
If you want change than you need to get active and start to vote them all out!
Government is for the people by the people and nowhere does it say for the benefit of the leader, the one, the god , the superior!
Narcissists in general operate from a false sense of self. They are able to manipulate, gaslight, project, mirror, brainwash, triangulate, hoover, smear, blame/shame, and threaten into submission.
It's this mob like mentality that will blindly lead the loyal harem of followers and enablers right off the cliff.
What has always alarmed me as in this case is the evidence is on the wall, it's spoken from the horses mouth, it's witnessed in plain sight yet the excuses pour on like gravy to cover up and hide and restate facts.
There should not be a 'us vs them' mentality but there now is!
There should not be a 'new norm' of operation but there is!
When did we lose sight of what's most important to all of us across both sides of the aisle?
We need a 'steady state' as the author illustrates and explains so eloquently.
This is not a left or right or center issue.
His inattentiveness and his impulsiveness in making the top decisions must be made with careful precision, with expertise and knowledge, with accountability and responsibility and dare one say transparency.
He works for us! The citizens of this great nation!
The executive branch is falling apart. "The White House is simply broken."
"Most concerning are the one third of 'things the president wants us to do [that] would be flat out illegal."
This above quote should alarm each and everyone of us!
Often times people want to find fault and point fingers.
However, in this case it's the constant lies, the constant blame, the shifting of the norms, the pitting of one vs the other that's dangerous.
He's creating a rift that will take years to heal and is putting our nation at risk of some dangerous repercussions.
His lack of how government functions, his inability to be 'non trigger happy', his lack of clear,concise,& in many cases credible statements are dangerous.
You can only continue to ignore actions and character for so long. The excuses must end and the beginning of examining the denial and nievity must start to surface.
Why are so many going to bat for a man who is so disloyal to them? Why is their such high turnover with lack of fulfilled positions and lack of qualified staff with nothing more than nepotism in hiring?
Why when DT does something wrong is the W.H. so quick to fleece America with an alternative reality?
Are Americans not able to form their own intellectual opinions without the need for 'Rush Limbaughs' of the world or 'Fox News analysts?
What worries me is people take him at his word and for narcissists in general their word is nothing more than empty promises, broken dreams, and trails of discard, devalue, and destruction.
Sure these toxic individuals are nothing more than black bottomless pits in need of attention and vanity but they also operate with a self serving agenda. One that serves only ONE with nothing more than supply and benefits.
Once the targets stop supply they will go elsewhere without so much as a good bye. In other words everyone is at his/her mercy of the narc. In plain language everyone is disposable as we've seen.
For those who are pro supporters I ask you this how is it everyone around his inner most circle has been indited on criminal charges yet we are let to believe he's the only not guilty party?
Yet, he notes himself he can "stand in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot somebody" and not "lose any voters" and quite frankly he's right.
I've longed learned in dealing with malignant narcs in general that they seek to win at all costs and to destroy their competition or anyone who is challenging them or feels superior to them.
They are competitive and adapt by becoming chameleons able to alter their persona just enough to blend in with their surroundings.
Behind closed doors is when the real work begins and that's what's so hard for those without knowledge of such toxicity to fully comprehend.
Devils don't come dressed up with horns!
They appear as ordinary as anyone else yet they are destructive, damaging, and deadly!
They appear believable and credible as they sell the 'Kool Aid' and are able to sell themselves as con artists but there's no substance behind the mask.
As Americans - "We should invest in someone whose virtues outweigh their vices."
My malignant narcissist once termed me as nothing more than a 'kept woman' and a 'business partner' after 11 yr marriage with 3 kids together.
I say this not for sympathy, not to compare, but to show that these individuals lack accountability, remorse, empathy, forgiveness, love, and every ounce of being that makes one human.
The isolation, the mind games, the constant fight or flight responses, the walking on eggshells, the smoke and mirrors ---IT'S ALL REAL!
This is who they are and they cannot change unless they accept their own actions and be the change.
We cannot hope, wish, pray, or try to box them into a corner, or even have them removed.
The best case is to avoid them , create boundaries, practice self love and make oneself a priority which is great if it wasn't the highest office of the land that we are examining and the fall out effect of having someone ill equipped to be in that seat.
"Normal people who spend anytime with Donald Trump are uncomfortable by what they witness."
This is your sign - it's a warning- a red flag- a gut reaction that something is terribly wrong.
Trust your gut instincts.
You know actions speak louder than words. Trust actions and never be fooled. Also the truth shall set your free.
All of this leads me to another point in that body language is crucial!
The love of money and luxury is not a crime but the Impeachment Hearings are about getting to the truth and allowing Congress to make the ultimate ruling.
Those who blindly follow are doing themselves a great disservice and it will be noted in history that they extinguished the light rather than stood up to the authoritarian state we now see in full display.
Donald Trump was originally a Democrat. He switched parties and yet many are unaware that he's not a 'conservative' but rather "The Wolf in Elephant's clothing."
We cannot get caught up in the 'eye candy' and the 'golden exterior' as fun as it may be.
We have to keep checks and balances and we must protect our Constitution and our Democracy!
United States debt rose to 22 trillion under DT in office with prior numbers under Obama as 1.4 trillion in '09 and down to 587 billion in 2016 right before leaving office.
In essence, DT has us on a fast track for bankruptcy and who better to know about all that than the man himself whose had several filed on record.
Sure we can seek fault and we can blame and or shame but wouldn't we be better to acknowledge we are all flawed and allow each one respect and dignity rather than anger and outbursts.
This is not my new norm but it's for many becoming the land of the 'alphas' and I for one am 'appalled.'
We are better than this and we cannot allow history to repeat itself.
"His words are reshaping who we are."
This constant merry go round or hamster wheel is exhausting. The days of non stop coverage is nauseating.
I no longer watch tv because everything is for his benefit even negative is twisted to give him an advantage of free air time.
It's the me, Me, ME syndrome.
So, I leave with this by Hayek, " To be a useful assistant in the running of a totalitarian state it is not enough that a man should be prepared to accept specious justification of vile deeds. Since it is the supreme leader who alone determines the ends, his instruments must have no moral convictions of their own. They must, above all, be unreservedly committed to the person of the leader."
"Ultimately, their willingness to act in ways they know are wrong becomes their route to a promotion."
It's a rule by force out of fear of retaliation and or those seeking benefits scenario that I've personally encountered far too often and it needs to end.
Remember one thing: Even fool's gold shines!
Vote!
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