Strong messages are provided throughout Groomed involving self worth, compassion, empathy, self love, and most importantly forgiveness.As a survivor of abuse with a family of toxic individuals it's important to separate reality from fiction and by that I mean you know what you've endured so don't trust the naysayers in determining your own worth.
One thing I've learned and have counseled others about is the notion of R&R, forgiveness, and self worth.
We cannot begin to rebuild from any forms of abuse until we understand we are not responsible for anyone's actions but our own.
As women we are nurtured, groomed, and provided tools necessary to keep us locked in to this toxicity.
As a young lady we are told to not upset the apple cart. To not show our emotions or anger. To be subtle and not aggressive in our ways. To go along with a man's idea and to cater to a man's every whim both inside and outside the home. The entire housewife idea is centered upon this notion as if our own worth is attached to our labels.
We have been groomed through other forms including the lack of forgiveness not necessarily for the perpetrator but for our own good.
By nature women are seen as caregivers and nurturers and often find themselves trying to be the peace keepers but there are times we need to shatter these boundaries and rise above for our own sake.
It's perfectly normal to show emotion and allow anger to come to the surface and not be afraid of how one will be perceived by peers.
While being bitter is not recommended it's a normal emotion that need not be kept hidden.
I enjoyed this read and hope others find comfort in its messages.
Thank you to the author and publisher for this ARC in exchange for this honest review.
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