Or in other words, “I Really Don’t Care, Do U?”- is not something you should wear when trying to make a statement on being 'best'.
Truth be told if you've not read my profile in its entirety please do and come back and we'll chat.
Ok, for starters I have experience in dealing with toxicity concerning those on the DSM manual dealing and personality trait disordered individuals.
While I wish we can all turn the other cheek it's hard not to offer insight into the reality that others may choose to continue to ignore or be in plain denial.
For starters it's hell in layman terms being married to a malignant narcissist (in general terms) however, I cannot diagnose based on Goldwater Rule so I'll write generically speaking in my following notes.
Now with this said, there's no love in a marriage with a narc because they are selfishly into themselves and couldn't care about family or the supportive union that binds.
In fact these toxic individuals marry often for nothing more than personal gains, benefits, and a source of supply. Your loyalty must be on top. Your silent voice must be portrayed. Your lack of communication is apparent. Please do not stay silent in these types of relationships. Find a supportive system, seek pro help, and get help in getting out quickly and safely.
I'm sorry but I don't buy the kool aid being sold here as it appears kosher and cordial but I deal with facts and truths not cherry coatings to sell novelties.
When the first lady disappeared, it was noted she was having surgery, and that she told DT not to appear for whatever reason. Generically speaking narcs don't care about their spouses or significant others.
She's not just a kept woman she's a business partner from all appearances and in general terms this is usually the case.
The writing is on the wall: The lack of love, affection, empathy is nothing more than a relationship of convenience on his time. It's a basic: two ships sailing in the night w/o sharing much of anything together other than kids. Love can be shown in a variety of ways including holding hands, walking together not apart or behind, inclusion not exclusion, and acknowledge not isolate.
My narc also slept in another room, never spoke direct but used email or two second calls, and rarely concerned himself with anything other than himself and his own needs.
While I agree she is beautiful it's the sad fact she's not being appreciated for her full value that she brings and her intellect or character which should supercede her own beauty.
The fight or flight reality is common and the constant looking over the shoulder is exhausting.
Walking on eggshells while being gaslighted, brainwashed, manipulated is all the norm.
Projection, mirroring, devaluing, discarding is sure to follow....
Narcissism is not just about vanity and ego's it's a personality trait disorder that's dangerous and can be deadly.
I wish those who chose to talk about such relationships had more knowledge of the danger these relationships can warrant and how it's not something to simply write off or get over.
The danger lives on long after the boundaries and borders are in place and the threats, intimidation, blackmail, smear campaigns are all part of the reality while hoovering takes hold.
Folks, I wish I can tell you it's simply just noticeable behaviors: holding hands, slaps on wrists, or simple behavior issues but this is so much more and a great disservice is being performed when you have authors who aren't aware of the warnings signs of abuse.
Sadly, we now live in a world in which almost every action is written off as the new norm.
It will never be acceptable to those who survived such abuse and yes, the warning signs are evident.
I do hope others reading this type of biography are aware that's more than a man simply being 'stuffy' ,'ignorant', or 'obnoxious.'
Nobody is above the law and sadly the kids in the end pay the highest price for a man absent using family as extensions of self to be molded and coddled for his benefit. The 'public persona' is enhanced using 'Publicity stunts'. The lack of accountability, responsibility, and remorse go hand in hand with 'work' as the failure of the man or woman.
I'm sorry our country is now under the spell but I do hope they too can one day see through the fog, smoke, mirrors and realize the Jekyll and Hyde is more than just a persona.
The person behind the false persona which is well hidden behind the mask is dangerous so please proceed with caution.
The trail of destruction, the unsuccessful relationships, the past financial issues, it's all just the tip of the iceberg as much more is hidden below.
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