Book Review: "The Less People Know About Us" By Axton Betz-Hamilton

It really is amazing when you think about family bonds and how they can be so delicate and fragile yet irretrievably broken.

What was truly hard to comprehend is how those meant to protect, guide, and support are often the very individuals who betray our trust especially when young and nieve.

In this case the entire family suffered at the hands of one who ultimately cashed in and cashed out.

Those years cannot be recovered as those left behind now must put the financial pieces back together and rebuild.

I know this feeling well as it's known in NPD as financial abuse.

Sadly, I was left bankrupt, homeless, and unemployed after trusting my spouse that we were building a future together one that involved our family and three kids.

Much like this situation I learned later on that everything that should've been paid was in fact not and everything that was to be saved or directed to provide for those in the family was in fact hidden away for 'the one' without anyone's knowledge.

The way I finally uncovered the truth was in divorce when the attorney scoffed at me for not having knowledge of not only my spouse's income but also the taxes being filed on my behalf w/o my signature of ability to view as he used Turbo Tax online.

This led to a multitude of discoveries including how he cashed out and or sold everything of value including so many collectible items that he moved us up a tax bracket causing a high repayment.

This led to the discovery of cashed out mutual funds including our children's college funds all wiped out completely. 

All property was mortgaged and emptied of all cash value using home equity lines of credit.

The same property we were forced to vacate from after utilities turned off and he refused to pay child support for well over a year resulting in homelessness.
Is it the unthinkable?

YES!

IS IT HELL?!

YES.

However, while I sit here typing to you to tell you we're still in extreme poverty what is most important isn't our status or labels. It's the fact we are still thriving, surviving, rebuilding and doing so together.

It's a painstakingly slow process but as long as you have your kids which are my only family at the moment then you have the world.

Life isn't about sucker punches and betrayal --Life must be about love, compassion, empathy --so I say the karma train will come around and those who do you wrong will pay.

In the meantime focus on your strengths, your talents, your abilities and the world will be your oyster.

God bless this family and all those who were taken advantage of as the world is often cruel but we are reminded what's most important.