First the impressive career by this author must be stated upfront: AMES D. ZIRIN a former Assistant United States Attorney for the Southern District of New York, where he served in the Criminal Division under the legendary Robert Morganthau. His writing has appeared in major periodicals such as Forbes, the LA Times, the London Times, the Washington Times, the Nation, and the New York Law Journal. He is a member of the Council on Foreign Relations. A graduate of Princeton University, Zirin received his law degree from the University of Michigan Law School. One more thing: He's a Republican.
I'll leave this comment which was the ending comment of the book: "No public man can remain indefinitely at the center of controversy."
You might ask why I did everything backwards for this review. It's because facts matter. Truth matters. Our Constitution of the United States matters. Our nation matters. Our citizens matter. Our democracy matters.
While I can't diagnose from afar based on the Goldwater Rule I can tell you the similarities between DT and my ex malignant narcissist are enormous.
I've lived this hell on earth for the past 20 yrs with an individual who would kiss you and stab you all in the same day.
This book is one of required reading for the nay sayers, the enablers, the flying monkeys, the groupies, and those who can't see the smoke through the fog.
What these toxic individuals do is master the art of deceit, trickery, manipulation, gaslighting, codependency, and triangulation. Love bombing, smear campaigning, blackmailing, intimidation, bullying, and the like is part of the game.
Narcissists operate on a false sense of self. In other words they need constant attention, adulation, praise, admiration, and empathy.
Yet non of the above is returned for the loyalty freely given to them. They don't share. They don't love. They don't form strong bonds with anyone but themselves.
The selfish egotistical moody form is a constant.
The family of these toxic individuals are viewed as secondary to their work and their livelihood. It's the me v them or us v them syndrome.
It's not a 'WE' but an 'I' and there's simply no 'I' in team.
It's all about 'winning' and 'the one' with pedestal placements, spotlighting, publicity stunts because yes even negative attention is still attention.
What you see is what you get and it's take it or leave it.
Just know that if you decide to question, call out facts, check and balances in requiring transparency and fairness you will be discarded and devalued and smeared like no tomorrow.
There's a reason why these types get away with it and it's because they can.
More than once I read is he larger than life, too big to be taken down, above the law and in all fairness while we discuss his past we must note he's rarely had more than a slap on the wrist.
Sure he lost some court cases but what does he care as he continues the madness without consequences for his actions.
The ordinary person would've been locked up at the first sign of a violation of the law much less the norms of ethics and or legislation.
Here we have a man basically mocking our entire democracy and system of justice and nothing is done.
You have a man blatantly telling you what he did and laughing while the Democrats and the governing bodies decide if what he acknowledged is criminal or in violation of our constitution. Should he be impeached? Should the truth matter?
There's an old saying- Talk is cheap!
I see plenty of talking but very little being done in saving our democracy.
As the author notes: "Trump saw law not as a system of rules to be obeyed and ethical ideals to be respected but as a potent weapon to be used against his adversaries or as a hurdle to be sidestepped when it got in his way."
Having spent 20 yrs with one I can tell you they feel above the law. They feel money can silence their opponents. They know how to use the law and the loopholes in the law to their advantage.
Case in point I filed for protection from abuse granting me exclusive possession of our marital home we shared. My narc filed for 'special relief' an illegal cause that was struck down by the judge after claiming he lost money while he paid our mortgage. Keep in mind I was tossed out of the marital home w our 3 kids from this marriage (son med disabled) and was left homeless, bankrupt, lt unemployed with a masters).
You see it's all about winning. It's all about grandiose ego. It's all about appearances and 'brand'.
It's about being able to as mine noted, "selling oneself."
Or in others words being able to be the best darn con artist one ever saw!
Empty promises, broken dreams, & constant drama with an empty bottomless black pit of nothingness is what you can expect.
The trail of destruction is long yet very few are willing to examine the past as was done here.
The actions of 'DT' speak volumes all on their own yet he will constantly blame and shame and set the wheels of anger and threats towards any opponent who dare challenge his assertions.
It's all about finding a source of supply and getting benefits for themselves. When those dry up they will already be onto the next 'target.'
I compare DT to malignant narcissists like my own because the similarities are striking.
I divorced in 2013 yet in 2019 I'm still waiting for court orders he never fulfilled ie. Contempt charges filed yesterday.
Prior to divorcing my ex spouse (who termed me his kept woman/business partner never wife/mother/lover/friend) decided to empty all accounts including our children's college funds, mortgage all property, take out home equity lines of credit, hide money in off shore accounts, and just went through a mess of a problem with our taxes in our last year of marriage.
They depreciate anything of value and will hide everything of value.
Their money is for them ONLY!
They don't care about love, honor, duty, protection only themselves.
So the kids are just merely extensions of themselves and their duty is to serving the one as he's god like in value.
The belief that he's a superior human being is no exaggeration because truly in his mind he thinks he's smarter and will compete like a dog to be top banana.
Litigations for fun, false accusations, side stepping, double dipping, pay to play schemes, withdrawing legal actions, settling out of court it's all part of the same thing.
They find it amusing to take empty threats to the end and then falter with them by being forced to withdraw them much like my recent case in which he refused to provide an additional $145 m in child support for our 3 kids after we lost son's disability and child support. It turned out his attorney fought for nearly 2 hrs yet the system is designed based on a set of numbers. You plug in each person's income (of which I have none) and the number game is the end game. Unless you believe you're above the law and will fight only to be forced to withdraw it in the end.
So what does it prove? Nothing.... Just that they will fight and want to see their enemies destroyed.
Even if they lose in their mind they won because they held you up, made you spend money fighting it in court, and they carry on while you live daily in fear, in torment, in hiding.
It's all about power, money, control much like domestic violence.
Whatever they accuse others of doing is what they themselves do. When woman are seen as liars it goes to show who is the real liar. Chronic lies is common.
Not paying workers, attorneys, or anyone of importance is common.
They are all secondary.
It's about a perception. How will he be perceived by the public?
Manipulating valuations is nothing for DT to accomplish.
Mirroring& projecting are a constant.
They have no true value so they rob others of their own.
In closing, "No other occupant of the White House has anything close to Trump's record of repeated social and business dealings with mobsters, swindlers, and other crooks" wrote David Cay Johnston for Politico in 2016.
I agree wholeheartedly now lets see what will be done with the obvious!
I can tell you living this life is exhausting. It's why I created my page, The Lost Self Life After Narcissism on Facebook. You feel as though you lost a part of oneself after trying so hard to please a person who can never be satisfied. I pray for our country. Please vote based on actions not words and empty promises!
God Bless America!
I'll leave this comment which was the ending comment of the book: "No public man can remain indefinitely at the center of controversy."
You might ask why I did everything backwards for this review. It's because facts matter. Truth matters. Our Constitution of the United States matters. Our nation matters. Our citizens matter. Our democracy matters.
While I can't diagnose from afar based on the Goldwater Rule I can tell you the similarities between DT and my ex malignant narcissist are enormous.
I've lived this hell on earth for the past 20 yrs with an individual who would kiss you and stab you all in the same day.
This book is one of required reading for the nay sayers, the enablers, the flying monkeys, the groupies, and those who can't see the smoke through the fog.
What these toxic individuals do is master the art of deceit, trickery, manipulation, gaslighting, codependency, and triangulation. Love bombing, smear campaigning, blackmailing, intimidation, bullying, and the like is part of the game.
Narcissists operate on a false sense of self. In other words they need constant attention, adulation, praise, admiration, and empathy.
Yet non of the above is returned for the loyalty freely given to them. They don't share. They don't love. They don't form strong bonds with anyone but themselves.
The selfish egotistical moody form is a constant.
The family of these toxic individuals are viewed as secondary to their work and their livelihood. It's the me v them or us v them syndrome.
It's not a 'WE' but an 'I' and there's simply no 'I' in team.
It's all about 'winning' and 'the one' with pedestal placements, spotlighting, publicity stunts because yes even negative attention is still attention.
What you see is what you get and it's take it or leave it.
Just know that if you decide to question, call out facts, check and balances in requiring transparency and fairness you will be discarded and devalued and smeared like no tomorrow.
There's a reason why these types get away with it and it's because they can.
More than once I read is he larger than life, too big to be taken down, above the law and in all fairness while we discuss his past we must note he's rarely had more than a slap on the wrist.
Sure he lost some court cases but what does he care as he continues the madness without consequences for his actions.
The ordinary person would've been locked up at the first sign of a violation of the law much less the norms of ethics and or legislation.
Here we have a man basically mocking our entire democracy and system of justice and nothing is done.
You have a man blatantly telling you what he did and laughing while the Democrats and the governing bodies decide if what he acknowledged is criminal or in violation of our constitution. Should he be impeached? Should the truth matter?
There's an old saying- Talk is cheap!
I see plenty of talking but very little being done in saving our democracy.
As the author notes: "Trump saw law not as a system of rules to be obeyed and ethical ideals to be respected but as a potent weapon to be used against his adversaries or as a hurdle to be sidestepped when it got in his way."
Having spent 20 yrs with one I can tell you they feel above the law. They feel money can silence their opponents. They know how to use the law and the loopholes in the law to their advantage.
Case in point I filed for protection from abuse granting me exclusive possession of our marital home we shared. My narc filed for 'special relief' an illegal cause that was struck down by the judge after claiming he lost money while he paid our mortgage. Keep in mind I was tossed out of the marital home w our 3 kids from this marriage (son med disabled) and was left homeless, bankrupt, lt unemployed with a masters).
You see it's all about winning. It's all about grandiose ego. It's all about appearances and 'brand'.
It's about being able to as mine noted, "selling oneself."
Or in others words being able to be the best darn con artist one ever saw!
Empty promises, broken dreams, & constant drama with an empty bottomless black pit of nothingness is what you can expect.
The trail of destruction is long yet very few are willing to examine the past as was done here.
The actions of 'DT' speak volumes all on their own yet he will constantly blame and shame and set the wheels of anger and threats towards any opponent who dare challenge his assertions.
It's all about finding a source of supply and getting benefits for themselves. When those dry up they will already be onto the next 'target.'
I compare DT to malignant narcissists like my own because the similarities are striking.
I divorced in 2013 yet in 2019 I'm still waiting for court orders he never fulfilled ie. Contempt charges filed yesterday.
Prior to divorcing my ex spouse (who termed me his kept woman/business partner never wife/mother/lover/friend) decided to empty all accounts including our children's college funds, mortgage all property, take out home equity lines of credit, hide money in off shore accounts, and just went through a mess of a problem with our taxes in our last year of marriage.
They depreciate anything of value and will hide everything of value.
Their money is for them ONLY!
They don't care about love, honor, duty, protection only themselves.
So the kids are just merely extensions of themselves and their duty is to serving the one as he's god like in value.
The belief that he's a superior human being is no exaggeration because truly in his mind he thinks he's smarter and will compete like a dog to be top banana.
Litigations for fun, false accusations, side stepping, double dipping, pay to play schemes, withdrawing legal actions, settling out of court it's all part of the same thing.
They find it amusing to take empty threats to the end and then falter with them by being forced to withdraw them much like my recent case in which he refused to provide an additional $145 m in child support for our 3 kids after we lost son's disability and child support. It turned out his attorney fought for nearly 2 hrs yet the system is designed based on a set of numbers. You plug in each person's income (of which I have none) and the number game is the end game. Unless you believe you're above the law and will fight only to be forced to withdraw it in the end.
So what does it prove? Nothing.... Just that they will fight and want to see their enemies destroyed.
Even if they lose in their mind they won because they held you up, made you spend money fighting it in court, and they carry on while you live daily in fear, in torment, in hiding.
It's all about power, money, control much like domestic violence.
Whatever they accuse others of doing is what they themselves do. When woman are seen as liars it goes to show who is the real liar. Chronic lies is common.
Not paying workers, attorneys, or anyone of importance is common.
They are all secondary.
It's about a perception. How will he be perceived by the public?
Manipulating valuations is nothing for DT to accomplish.
Mirroring& projecting are a constant.
They have no true value so they rob others of their own.
In closing, "No other occupant of the White House has anything close to Trump's record of repeated social and business dealings with mobsters, swindlers, and other crooks" wrote David Cay Johnston for Politico in 2016.
I agree wholeheartedly now lets see what will be done with the obvious!
I can tell you living this life is exhausting. It's why I created my page, The Lost Self Life After Narcissism on Facebook. You feel as though you lost a part of oneself after trying so hard to please a person who can never be satisfied. I pray for our country. Please vote based on actions not words and empty promises!
God Bless America!
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