A great introduction into the world of the HSP and Malignant Narcissists by Shahida Arabi.
This new work focuses upon the emotional turmoil and the healing guidance and recovery that ultimately must follow in order to reform this broken cycle.
Our family courts is one area of centralized focus in which we need desperate legalization and change. We cannot continue with high case loads, people viewed as mere case numbers, and no individualized training for the court workers and staff. Judges have no idea what they are dealing with and often side with the abuser noting they are more believable and or credible even when the victims aka warriors appear with legal documents in hand to prove otherwise.
I've dealt with this matter personally, professionally, and internally as a survivor of a malignant narcissist to whom I'm now divorced since 2013 from this 11 year union with three kids.
Everything noted in this highly acclaimed work is accurate and I'd note if you ever need another voice to acknowledge feel free to visit my self help site for further discussion -The Lost Self Life After Narcissism- Facebook.
I'll add that you are your best judge and jury. If it feels wrong, if the relationship was rushed, if you feel lost and overwhelmed -never give up.
Find your inner peace, harmony, and wellness by partaking in any simple exercise or activity as journaling and writing is clearly a good way not only to help others but to let those who've experienced similar know they too are not alone.
When the warning signs were initiated for me I chose to believe in the greater good. I fell for the lies, the excuses, and the partial truths.
Do not make the mistake I made with a dual masters degree in Criminal Justice by believing the well dressed lie.
Narcissists operate from a false sense of self. They feel superior with grand ego's and don't believe the law applies to them.
The enabler, the loyal harem, those in support of these toxic individuals do so for a variety of reasons including fear, retaliation, and or reward.
You must note that smear campaigns are just as destructive as the original abuse subjected too from these toxic situations.
You need not be in a romantic relationship either as these individuals can be anyone from a boss, coworker, family, friend, or clergy to name a few.
Manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, love bombing, projection, mirroring, hovering, and the subsequent stockholm syndrome and more which are terms you will often here but may not have known about till now.
This book is crucial to understanding the various levels of the DSM Manual of personality trait disorders like malignant narcissism while focusing upon HSP individuals who are sensitive and empathetic while also loving and nurturing.
These are the ideal targets of this toxicity and should be on careful alert.
Shahida Arabi gives a number of concrete examples with real time actions as well as professional help for those who need such and it's noted in the author's notes it was with love that this book was written with the blessings from LCSW certified individuals.
A must read for all!
Thank you to Shahida Arabi for this exclusive ARC copy via Netgalley in exchange for this honest review.
No comments:
Post a Comment