While I understand some may think this dictator had a softer side perhaps they're mistaken by the lack of knowledge of personality trait disorders and misconstrued subtlety for softness.
The idea that someone can MURDER 6 million Jewish men, women, and children and claim to have this other side is sick because this other side was nothing more than Jekyll and Hyde persona.
In fact this individual wore two masks- one in public and one in private and every malignant narcissist with similar personality trait disorders operates the same.
It's this attention, adulation, constant praise and pedestal placement as a God like human being above the law that created this mystique that some fell for as character.
These women in so-called romantic relationships were nothing more than pawns to stroke this man's highly egotistical alpha male needs via supply as targets of his ways.
Based on the DSM manual he falls in the range of NPD, sociopath, psychopath and while some felt he possessed this leadership quality what he possessed was the ability to be believable and credible while stealing the credit from others to claim as his own doing.
He was shy yet overly full of himself and disliked to be challenged, questioned, or not taken seriously.
His word was gospel to his enablers, followers, and loyal harem and yet, with this tough exterior this man hid like a coward in an underground bunker and committed suicide at his own hands.
Imagine that?
This is not a man this is a monster who should have received mental illness treatment.
Phil Carradice did a fantastic job not only in documentation and research but in civility and empathy as I wouldn't have been so kind in this discussion because I've lived this discard and devalue train wreck.
I know the trail of horror these toxic individuals leave behind yet the Goldwater Rule prevents such diagnosis without professional treatment.
What I can tell you is that these individuals need constant ego stroking and will manipulate, threaten, blame, shame, silence, and control their victims through any means necessary.
The author notes: How he could control or manage the switch from raving bully to understanding and considerate friend and manager remains a mystery.
Not for those who lived it because it's quite easy: It's all about power/control and these men will do anything to obtain it even if it means putting on a 'show' as a puppet master to gain so called friends and or loyalty. Yet, the minute these 'friends' no longer serve a purpose they will be tossed without a second notice.
Sure, these toxic people can be somewhat restrained for a period of time but eventually they blow, they react, they lash out against even their own family and friends.
Family to them is secondary and not priority. They cannot love others as they cannot love themselves. They will have sex as a 'mechanical act' but it means nothing and neither do their own partners.
My ex spouse told me he could have sex with anyone (having multiple affairs and children to many women) yet I was deemed his kept woman and business partner never his wife of 11 years, not the mother of his three kids (who nearly died to have them) nor the woman who gave up her career and masters to raise them for twenty years at her own detriment unable to re-enter the workforce.
Which then brings me to the next point that the author showcases the double end of the sword. That his womanizing was two fold. At one point he plays house but at the other end he puts women out of qualified roles in the workplace including preventing them from being judges, serving on jury duty, working a job, but rather being a homemaker.
"Hitler now stated publicly that he intended to take 800,000 women out of the workforce. They would be replaced by men. It was the brutal way of reducing unemployment."
The fact that this individual ever found his way into politics and power is not surprising given our current state of affairs in our own White House with the 45th what's surprising then as is now is why must history repeat itself and when will we ever learn the lessons it's meant to teach us?