Book Review: "Super-Women" By Janina Scarlet

 

Having read numerous self help books Super-Women was one of the best if not the best one I've ever read to date!

This book captures the very essence of women's concerns and addresses them in a clear, precise, and concrete format to not only assist them in conquering their fears but in challenging themselves to not be bitter but better.

To never feel alone, to feel empowered, to feel worthy, to feel loved- isn't that what we all want and deserve?

We as women are often so busy making a life that we forget to simply have ONE!

In the day and age of social media and the Instagram world of perfection I find that many women are losing themselves in the shuffle. That notion that we must keep up with everyone else or risk being shamed, blamed, and or guilt tripped.

I know this feeling well because I'm a high energy individual with ADHD since childhood and who never sits still. When I worked in a factory I was top producer in two departments at the same time and associate of the month numerous times. I worked so hard, so fast, and so energetically that the managers asked to video tape me to show others how to work proficiently and productively producing so many units per hour as a material handler.

As an adult I challenged myself to continue to excel at the risk of 'burn - out' as the author notes.

If I did anything I did it with 150 % and even then I was hard on myself.

For example I'm currently the Top 28 USA Reviewer of All Time with Goodreads yet it's not good enough. I'm holding 88% feedback for reviews as an unpaid trade blogger handling over 300 ARC's per month and conducting 11-20 blog tours per month yet it's not enough.

I do this while raising three kids, while seeking full time work, while seeking a living wage for the past ten years after volunteering for the past twenty years raising kids. I did so much volunteering that I was recognized locally and nationally even with the President of the United States Of America in receiving the Points Of Light Award in 2016 yet it's still not enough.

I'll spare you the rest but we all have similar stories in this train of destruction in which we never feel we measure out to our peers.

It's high time we get it together and understand that perfection bleeds insanity and insanity is the continuation of spinning your wheels doing the same thing and getting nowhere.

It's like when Dr. Phil  would comment and say, "How's that working for you.?" Many of us would probably answer," It isn't working."

We're tired, we're isolated, we're unhappy, we're not functioning at our best level because it's not about working harder but smarter.

Take time to enjoy the view, smell the roses, dance in the puddles, and enjoy one another.

One thing for me with the haters, trolls, bots, and guilt trippers is to simply say this," If God is For Me Who Could Be Against Me."

Think about it ...

What do you have to lose by going outside that comfort zone? Apply yourself. Tell your story. 

I'm a survivor of domestic violence and I now council others in the field of study.

For those who feel uncertain and filled with insecurities I tell them to take out the journal and jot down how you feel. Take note of how you treat yourself. It's not selfish it's selfless.

We must learn to detach and love ourselves before we ever love another.

We can't give of ourselves when we're depleted and running on empty.

Slow it down and enjoy the gifts and blessings in the here and now.

Thank you to Janina Scarlet for the wonderful and fresh ideas that this book brings out and for the round table discussion format.

This should be on everyone's must read list.